Do You Like You?

Do you like yourself?

Most girls would say no.

I say no all the time when I look at myself in the mirror. Recently I have heard some really great songs that have inspired me to write this post. I figured you guys need to hear this more than you need to know what I got at the store the other day.

Most teen girls don't like what they see in the mirror. If they are 5'9 and 120 pounds or 5'3 and 140. Every girl is insecure with something on their body. What are you insecure about?

Your Hair?

Weight?

Eyes?

Nose? 

Teeth?

Whatever it may be you are not alone. 

I'm going to be 100 percent honest with you right now because honesty is the best policy. I am very insecure about my weight. I am 5'5 and weigh 120 pounds. I think that my thighs are really big. I also think I have really yellow teeth and sometimes when I smile I look like a 7 year old. It doesn't matter if these things are true or not. These are daily thoughts that go into my head when I see myself in the mirror.

Is this healthy?

NO!

So why is it happening? 

I'm pretty sure that everyone knows that most people blame it on the media. Everyone knows about the video were they show you how they photo shop the model and she doesn't even look like herself in the end. Haven't seen it? Well here it is.

Yea crazy I know right?

These people aren't real.

Check out this video I thought it was really interesting

Well you might say " Well my favorite actress is real or my best friend that is perfect is real and she doesn't use photo shop at school" 

You are totally right. But are you your friend? no. God made each of us in our own PERFECT (and yes I said perfect) and unique way. If God chose you to have really frizzy hair that you can't control maybe he decided to also give you awesome teeth that you will never have to have braces for.

So like I said I have some issues about my weight. I really struggled with it over this past year with gaining the "freshman 15" One day I just really broke down and started crying to my mom. I was complaining about this amazing creation that God himself created. I was telling God that what he made was not beautiful and that I hated it.

Let say this, what if your mom made you something, let's say a scarf. She put all of herself into that scarf. All her money, time and love. And then she gave it to you with the biggest smile on her face. But then you take the scarf and you destroy it. You tell it to her face that you hate the scarf and you think it is horribly ugly.

This is what we are doing when we don't take care of our body's like we should be (eating disorders) this is what happens when we punch the mirror or when we complain about how we look.

You know what my mom told me when I was crying about how I looked? Well first she said "Bella you are a beautiful girl, and I would so much rather you be a fatter girl that lives her life for Christ and is happy then be a skinny girl that doesn't love the Lord and isn't happy." This really struck me. Is it really worth it?

The next week I came to a breaking point I said, you know what God? I give this all to you! And on the way back from Oklahoma I wrote something in my notes to God that I hope will help you girls out there. It was kind of my prayer saying God take all of me and take this burden and do with me that you want.

The note said..."God, I give you all of me. Take this burden from me and set me free. Do with my body what you would have me do. It is not mine but yours. I'm so blessed that I can walk, run, eat, and workout. And I have taken advantage of that. I WOULD RATHER BE FAT AND LOVE YOU THEN SKINNY AND LOST. Help me to love this body that you have given me and to take control of it. If you choose for me to be heavy in my life. Then help me to except that. All I want is to be happy and for you to show me that being skinny is not the way to be happy but that devoting my life to you is the only way I will ever truly be happy.

And I read this every time I want to skip a meal or when I look in the mirror too long. You know having all these thoughts about yourself is really selfish. That's what really got me. Deep down I don't want to be a selfish girl. But worrying about all this is making me only think about myself.

So what can you do to take your mind off yourself and put it on others?

Stay busy.

Get involved in activities.

 Maybe tutoring younger kids after school.

 If you are older you could start mentoring a girl. 

Join a sport

Sell and make things for charity

get a job

Complement another person everyday. 

Keep the focus off yourself.

This will help you not judge too.  If someone at your school has fabulous hair, TELL HER!

Just being around positive people will help you out more. Put yourself in situations where you have to only think of others. Pull yourself from that #fitspiration instagram and away from your selfies and mirrors and focus your attention on things a little less wordily. 

 Get rid of your scale

Give up makeup for a week

Instead of doing your hair do your sisters

FOCUS ON GOD. 
I have a few more videos I wanted to show you guys. Two of which are songs and another one is a spoken word.

This song is really catchy and has a really great message. And also the music video is super cute! Please excuse some bad language and a few dance moves I don't approve of. Just focus on the great message and lyrics.

Actually my brother played this song for me in the car and I almost started crying. It really hit home and the music video makes it come to life!

Molly Kate Kestner is a really great singer/ song writer. She wrote this spoken word to this generation and It kind of goes along the lines of what I was talking about more toward wordily things.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

-Psalms 139:14

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.

-Psalm 139:13

You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.

-Song Of Solomon 4:7

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

-Proverbs 31:30

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

-Psalm. 34:18

If anyone destroys God's temple, God will destroy him. For God's temple is holy, and you are that temple.

-1 Corinthians 3:17

I hope all of this helped you. And if you know me personally then please come and talk to me about this. I can relate first hand and pray with you. Remember you are not alone!